For Every Yes

About a year and a half ago, I found myself trapped in a lifelong habit of being a yes girl. Honestly, that “season” wasn’t just a season—it was my entire life. But at that moment, the weight of it finally caught up to me.

I was preparing to go on a wellness retreat with a group of women from my church, and I came so close to backing out. I was completely overwhelmed by everything I had committed to. That’s when it hit me—for every “yes” I gave to something, I was saying “no” to something else.

Saying yes to serving in every possible way meant saying no to my kids when they asked, “Mommy, can we…?” Saying yes to every study opportunity about The Word meant saying no to actually spending time in The Word. Deep down, I thought if I just did enough good things, that I would somehow be enough. That I could serve my way into Heaven.

But in reality? I was neglecting the most important things—my personal relationship with God and the ministry He had given me within my own home.

The retreat changed me. I finally found peace and balance. Until I didn’t.

It wasn’t long before I fell right back into my old habits, overcommitting, overextending, and ultimately, overwhelming myself again. And one day, in the middle of an absolute meltdown, I realized—I couldn’t do this anymore.

So I made a choice. I stopped saying yes to everyone else and started saying yes to what truly mattered.

I said yes to spending time with God in prayer, in Bible study, in quiet moments with Him.

I said yes to my greatest ministry—my family.

I said yes to taking care of my mental and spiritual health.

And in the midst of all that surrender, God planted a dream in my heart. A dream that brings me so much joy. A dream that allows me to share the Gospel in an unexpected way.

And I wouldn’t have heard His call if I hadn’t finally learned that ultimately, the best “yes” is the one that puts Him first.